FAQ’s and Common Comments:
“I’m afraid that if I give too much I will deplete myself.”
When we think of giving as something that takes away from oursevles, then we feel depleted. True giving, however, makes us feel energized. It brings back as much as it puts out. That said, we must also nurture ourselves by taking time for recharging our own batteries. Quiet time for contemplation, meditation or prayer; eating well; exercising – these are essential.
“I can’t bring up loving or generous feelings toward some people.”
You don’t have to. It’s not how we feel about people that must drive our actions. It’s merely a conviction to do the right thing regardless of how we feel. It can be difficult at first, but when you see the results you will learn its worth. (But don’t look for specific results – just observe whatever comes.)
“I have too many problems of my own to treat others better than they treat me.”
When we return unpleasantness for unpleasantness, retribution for injury, we are acting just like the people who have offended us. It takes far less energy and effort to treat someone well, regardless of what they have done, than to respond unlovingly. Science has shown that the immune system is compromised when we hold grudges, anger, or ill will; but it is enhanced when we express peaceful intentions.
“I’m struggling financially. I don’t see how I can actively help someone.”
It doesn’t take money to help. It just takes a passion for compassion, and maybe a little of your time, but mostly it takes intention. Helping others can take your mind off your own concerns, provide perspective, and help you feel better!
“I don’t owe anything to those who have not helped themselves.”
It’s a common misconception that everyone who is in unfortunate circumstances, sick, frail, or disabled could do better if they tried. All it takes to realize this is to find yourself in dire circumstances that are not of your own making, and not have the help you need. All our brothers and sisters deserve our help.
What are some of the things I can do to help people?
Smile at people – you’dbe amazed how a simple smile with eye contact can change someone’s day.
Be kind and be helpful. When someone needs even a small favor or bit of help, do it, cheerfully.
Be curteous, in restaurants, and with people in all service positions. They get the brunt of people’s discontent and could use as much cheer as you can give them.
Be curteous on the road.
Google “service organizations” in your community.
To find how you can actively help those in need, please read Practical Compassion, which is available at https://soulofcompassion.com/practical-compassion/
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